Видео

Beautiful lady I feel such sadness for you please god you will find your sisters and find peace in your life sendin a big hud xxxx

That music off

Can't find the article / video, but didn't the law change recently? I think a court case required more disclosure. Korea has a family registry. It didn't just disappear and there should be relatives attached to the name / birthday.

Maybe the grand children will be ones to break through with making contact. Wish you well Nancy

I love the AC monster story ❤😂 My daughter thought there was a monster in our kitchen for quite awhile, turned out to be the ice maker in the freezer dumping the ice 😂

Right after the man talked about the air conditioner noises he thought was the house being haunted, they show a pic of him as a boy, then a pic of him with a little black girl. She is the spitting image of my granddaughter only a few years older.

Emily and Jack are adorable

They are all such good looking men. The man who was half black was the most adorable little boy. Anyone would have been proud to have any one of these boys as their son.

❤

The back ground music makes it hard for me to hear!!!

I like the attitude of this lady ! Amazingly brave .

So glad you made it through Shelby. So glad you were able to share your experience even though the process of filming and reliving it involved it's own trauma. I had an aunt go through the same thing. It was back in the days they didn't think young women could even get breast cancer. My aunt was only in her 20's when she first got her diagnosis. All the very best going forward.

Thanks so much for sharing your experience Shelby. I have plenty of cancer on my mothers side of the family. Out of 8 children my mother is the only one that has not had any form of cancer or other terminal illness. Allot of my grand mothers siblings also had cancer. 2 of my uncles have had 2 totally different forms of cancer each. I know my families medical history, better known as my "crappy genetics" but I often feel paralyzed with fear because I have seen so much cancer. So I don't have all the preventative testing, I'm supposed to have. Listening to your story has encouraged me to be more thankful that I do know my families medical history. I still don't like the information I do have but information is power right.... I will make some of those appts on Monday. I wish you all the very best going forward you are a very brave and a good person for sharing your story. I am going to watch the other 2 of your vlogs. Best wishes from Australia.

Children want and need loving nurturing parents/adults to protect and care for them in their formative years. They will seek this on their own instinctively until they are old enough to care for themselves. Then they have the wherewithal to go back and sort out the past and the pain that comes along with having to accept the burden of part of their childhood being robbed by the trauma of living in survival mode. Everyone questions who they are and why they’re here eventually. It starts at a different point for adoptees, that’s all. ❤

It’s lovely to see you’re doing well in ‘24. ❤ Thank you for sharing these thoughts. I’m an adoptive mom-to-be and this issue is certainly a complex and intimidating one. There’s so much selflessness involved in walking this road well.

The brother and sister I would like an update on these two if they have gone back again if they found any family they should be old enough now.

I was also adopted and grew up in New Hampshire - very much in solidarity with you on the racism growing up there. Thanks for sharing your story!

Wow, these stories are so powerful. To the gentleman who witnessed his mother's murder, I'm so sorry for all the trauma in your life. I wish the aunt who loved you could have known the beautiful person you've become. I was transfixed by these stories laughing and crying throughout this documentary. It was heartwarming to see you all reconnect with biological relations. I hope it brings some sense of healing and peace. The parents of the younger children will see that they get what they need. Thank you for sharing your stories. God bless.

adoptive parents needs to let their adopted kids know how lucky they are to get along with your adopters and have good upbringing and adequate food and education and guidance into adulthood. kids who are stuck in the foster system might not be as lucky. no one hurt you growing up. you didn't have to be raised by an alcoholic or drug addict which is hard on a kid not to denigrate their bio parents but it is still difficult and adoption makes possibilities accessible. not all chhldren are loved, you are. not all children have food, good food, you do. etc. you had good adoptive parents who were considerate of your being.

i see this all the time. really one needs to not have the symptoms of obfuscating the child's identitiy (stolen child syndrome)--anonymous IVF for example. i see cross cultural adoptions where the parents seem to think it is okay to change a growing toddler's name and traditional foods, just abruptly without awareness or even some preparation/explanation for the child. the child takes a while to calm down. then there is the other side of the coin. one would need to tell the child where they came from in a positive way and not create trauma. leave something familiar around the kid. the lose everything all at once --- their name, their food, their familiar caregivers. this i am your mommy i am your daddy only works with infants and it isn't exactly true ---- you are mom and dad #2 truthfully.

I went to the 1st grade in Korea. Everyday, I’d look at the class list by the door and my name was always at the top (ranking system). My best friend’s name was also there. Either she was 1st & I was 2nd or I was 1st & she was 2nd. I loved school, & I was very proud of myself. I was the youngest of 4 children. After being sent to a foreign country to live with foreign strangers for the rest of my life, I only wanted to go home & see my family. I missed everything about my Korean life & family traditions. I was from the countryside, & we had land & grew crops. After my father died, there was no welfare to help our family through our hardship. My two older sisters were taken out of school to work in the factory to help put my brother through high school. There was a lot of pressure on him to do well in school to go to college & get a good job in order to take care of our family. He became head of the household at that time because he was the oldest male. Only good thing in that is the he didn’t have to serve in the military, although I think he would’ve wanted to do that because he liked the idea of being a soldier as a boy. As for me, I was too young to help out. I was more of a burden. I was sent to America. They made it sound like Disney Land or something. When I got here, I found that it wasn’t. School was horrible, family life was really hard, & everything was super confusing. I found my parents didn’t like where I came from & looked down on my culture. They didn’t really seem to like me, although they would say, “I love you,” without getting to know me. I realized they only loved me if I was willing to conform to their ways (which I wasn’t). It was really fake, & life went downhill afterwards. I wanted to go home back to my family. I remember when I told the the interpreter at the airport I wanted to go home & see my family, it was explained to me that this is my new family now & I would never go home again. They said maybe when I grow up, I can see them again. I told her that’s gonna be too late, & it was. My mom is dead now. The last time I saw her she was sick. I was fortunate enough to see her as an adult 3x (a total of 3 weeks) before she passed. I missed her all my life, & I miss her still. Hard to think she ever thought that I’d be better off without her. I grew up suicidal, & I’m estranged from my adoptive parents now. I’m unmarried with no children & no degree. I’ve spent most of my life in poverty (always broke & in debt). One of my good friends said she never knew anyone who could stretch a dollar like can. The only good thing in my life is in my adulthood I’ve been fortunate to have really good friends, & I’ve kept my integrity & my pride in my roots & stayed true to who I am. #IKnowMyStory

I have been following a Alex Gilbert, a Russian who was adopted by New Zealand parents. He finally found his mum and met his dad who didnt know about him. He is now helping so many adoptees find their birth parents in Russia, Ukraine and also Romania. Amazing stories. Thank you for telling us your story and the happy ending

Thanks

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm in the opposite position of my birth mother not wanting contact. She was also in an unwed mother's home. You've definitely given me insight to how she might have felt. I would've loved my reunion to be with someone open like you.

It’s because you were rejected twice. I have 2 adopted grandson’s adopted from Korea and I worry they will run into brick walls when they begin their search.♥️🇨🇦♥️

Does she look for her sisters?

My birth Mother was at the Florence Critterdon Home in Durham, NC and Have always wondered what it like for her and wondered if you would mind sharing your experience?

I hope you don’t give up and Korea will be better to look for your family! I want to say I respect you and understand.

Oriental people are so beautiful! My first love was a Chinese Malay. So interesting seeing these stories Thanks. ❤

Wonderful documentary. very moving. International adoption so tricky for the adoptees

Paul is sooooo handsome

What a great story

God's blessings ❤ during your cancer journey

Why is date of birth a personal info that they cant disclose? I tell everyone when my bd is...

Thank you for sharing your stories. The man who witnessed his mother's tragic death really hit me deep. He had a very traumatic hard life and I can see in his eyes. He has a beautiful soul and pray for the best life for everyone!

Wow so shocking how that black man watched his mom die.

Linda you are a beautiful woman ❤❤

Whatever the reasons, u are very lucky to hv a good family.

GOD is so graet. Life, Life ❤🇩🇴

catholics do not baptize anyone like that...anywhere

We adopted our son from South Korea about 7 months ago. I often wonder what our son will remember and his questions when he gets older.

What a lovely lady, I feel her pain being adopted myself. I was adopted in the country I live in now, so going from one culture to another is very complex. I wish her all the very best.

Heart breaking stories p, I am white English and also adopted. The only bit I did not like was the American gift bit at the end, like we are so blessed to be adopted, ‘the American gift’.

You are beautiful and not a monster! I love your spirit for not allowing it to break you🥰 This documentary is very enlightening and teaches me to be even more understanding and compassionate toward all. We cannot control the circumstances we are born into but we can choose how to deal with the circumstances.

Would be better without the music 😊

My daughter was adopted from China. She's almost 21 now and away at school. I have always worried about racism but she has never shared that she's experienced it. I know she must have but hasn't related that to me. She's never seemed to be interested in China or Chinese culture that I know about. I would love for her to find her family if that's what she wants.

The human race pretends to be civil yet barbaric actions like separating a child and a mother are permitted to keep up the pretenses and falsehoods of society.

How totally beautiful these people are. They came through such difficult times as children. But they are so eloquent and nice. I had a very difficult childhood, I spent time in children homes as a choice and was jealous of the children in a home. But I never had any love at home, just ridiculed and hit. And wishing as a small child I could leave. It’s so interesting listening to there back stories.

I cannot believe that couple had to wait 17 months after getting his picture. When we adopted our daughter everyone got their photo of a small baby. We all left for Korea 10 weeks later when approval to travel came through. Except ours didn’t but we had to book the flights and hope because it was getting close to Christmas. That is our summer holidays and flights were almost booked out. We still had to leave without permission from our Government to travel so we weren’t sure what would happen. No one picked us up from the airport but we didn’t know they were supposed to. We went to the Mission where other adoptive parents were staying and the first couple I spoke to didn’t have permission to travel either and their baby was younger than ours. We met our daughter at 4 months old. Twelve days later we got too take her home. We did ask for a visit with Foster Mother because we didn’t know we got to spend exactly 30 minutes with our baby who was snatched and gone when the buzzer went. They told us they would pick us up in 12 days before our flights left. It was like this is your daughter that we had waited so long for and then they took her away. So a couple of hours with Foster Mother was very much needed. Our daughter was her 55th newborn she Fostered for adoptive parents and we stayed in contact with her for 5 years. We got our baby a day early because they didn’t want to open the office on Sunday. We had to be at the airport by 6.00am for a Midday flight to Singapore and then home. We had to keep our baby covered in the Taxi and until we checked in. Then we were rushed into the crews lounge and told we were going on a flight to Japan two hours earlier where we had😊😊 We didn’t know until we got home what had changed. My sister was the only one with our flight numbers, she was also a Police Officer and so was her husband and my brother. Only the Police knew something had happened, it was not yet in the news. I called my sister when we landed and she cried, she had been working out how to get our bodies back. Our flight was the one blown up by the North Koreans in 1987 but it was blown up before it landed to get us. We were Blessed, our baby was and is a beautiful gift that I hoped to share with her Birth Family but it didn’t happen. We have tried to take her back to Korea for trips from age 10 but she would not go. As soon as she graduated from University she left a week later to start traveling the world and other than Covid years she likes to spend 4 months of the year traveling. I am so excited because next year she is going to Japan and Korea. About 2 years ago she fell in love with everything Korean. She always loved her Korean story books and books on her culture. My husband and I learned to cook Korean food and they both love it. They like more chili than I do but I am getting there. We still mostly eat Japanese and Korean food. Our daughter is still discovering most of it but she just turned 36 so she does not live at home now, she is missed terribly everyday and we travel to see her a few times a year. Or she will come to us. It is about time she is ready to discover where she came from and I wish I could go but this one is her journey. She only ever travels alone since she was 20. I do not understand why Korea is making people wait so long for a baby. That makes it so much harder on the little one to adjust.

Hi Shelby, thank you for your beautiful documentary. As also a Korean Adoptee, I was right there with you as went through the different steps of trying to find your biological family. You articulated your feelings so well during your birth family search within the context of a complicated situation like transracial adoption from Korea in the 70s. I also was adopted in the 70s by very supportive, loving parents from Minnesota, which I'm truly grateful for. But like you, at the same time, when confronted with trying to take the steps to find my biological family in Seoul with little success, I uncovered deep feelings of sadness and loss that have been buried most of my life, as my focus was always on my present life in the US and "playing the hand" that I was dealt with. But as I've gotten older, I have realized the importance of trying to find that "center piece" of your life puzzle and filling in that "black hole" of a Korean adoptee's life (and I suppose of most adoptees' lives to a certain degree). You actually have more information than I do. Regarding biological family info, I really only have 2 things- my Korean name and birthdate. I was actually in Seoul 2 weeks ago, doing what you did, going to my orphanage and searching for more information. Nothing yet, but like you, I will keep searching...